1. Stay true to yourself

You don't have to give up your own passion and interest once you become a mom.it's important that you find time for what you love to do like reading, writing, church activities etc find a.way to incorporate these into your routine.even if you don't get to do it as often as before.if you take care of your own needs you will be happier and will function better as a mom.


2.Be patient

Raising kids is hardwork.They are noisy,messy and incredibly demanding.Yes you will lose your patience once in a while,but for the most part,try to take a deep breath and see them for the small helpless people that they are.you may not be a patient person by nature,but motherhood should be able to make you more patient than you ever thought you could possibly be.


3.Listen to your children.Really listen

This is a tough one for some mom's but you keep trying.we tend to assume that we know more than our kids do which is true to some extent of course,so we don't really bother to listen.in addition,we often act as problem solver dishing out immediate advice when all they need is for us to listen to them.i often advice not to be too busy to listen to a child cos you can go back to that work but you may never go back to that moment when you miss it.


4,Teach them simplicity.

You Will do them a big ,huge favour if you teach them at a young age to avoid associating happiness with the accumulation of material possession.The younger they're the more likely they will listen to you,so start early when your kids are younger is the right time to instill values in them,before they're teens(pre-teens) and peer pressure takes over.Never go shopping as a fun outing but when necessary so as to teach them how to manage spendings.


5.Don't push them too hard.

I know you want your kids to be successful.Youwant them to reach their full potential and to be financially secure.But you need not to push them too hard and to maintain a relatively relaxed approach to success at school.


6. Teach them self esteem.

High esteem is the single most important gift that a parent can give their kids.A Aperson with a high self esteem is more likely to be happy and reach her full potential.You teach your kids self esteem by showing them that you value them,by spending time with them and by talking and listening to them..


7.Teach them to be self reliant.

Another one that some struggle with everyday.it's very tempting to help your children in a way that robs them of the opportunity to help themselves.At every developmental stage your child reaches she can do things by herself.if you do them for her, you're not really helping her,but rather holding her back.Good parents work themselves out of the picture slowly.As much as you may like to feel needed try to let your kids be as independent and self sufficient as they possibly can.Ever so slowiy ,work yourself out of the picture.


8.Laughand have fun!

When you're a mom it's easy to become so absorbed in the logistics of taking care of your kids that you forget to relax and have fun.But kids are fun.They give you a wonderful opportunity to be a child all over again and do things that you never thought you would do as an adult (like crawling on your knees while playing) and see the world through their innocent, curious eyes.

So good mom's take care of your kids and at the same time create time for yourself to be able to enjoy the motherhood stage,if you take care of your own needs,you will be happy and will function better as a mom regardless of the stress in motherhood